It's Okay to Make YOU the Priority

By Loren Slocum Lahav


As the mom of a young man who recently went off to college and other kids still at home who are growing up faster than I care to admit, I know all too well the feelings that come with empty nest syndrome or preparing for empty nest syndrome.

I have read so many articles, talked to many other moms, and some of what I learned was quite frightening. Many women can easily spiral into battles with depression, anxiety, alcohol use, sleep issues, extreme weight gain or weight loss when a child leaves home. It’s not easy to just continue going about your day to day life. You’re always going to be thinking about them. Are they eating? Are they wearing their seatbelt? Are they studying? Are they being safe? Are they being responsible?

Worrying is normal however; it’s also a time for you to rejoice.

You should rejoice in the fact that your child has entered adulthood! Your child is now able to choose their life path and to do the things that will get them closer to their goals & dreams; goals and dreams they may have had since they were young children. So, while you’re always going to worry about your children once they leave home, I’m saying to start making yourself a priority!

It’s time to allow yourself to do the things that you need and want to do without feelings of guilt. It is the ideal time to start a hobby you’ve wanted to start. It’s a great time to start the exercise program that you’ve been putting off because you just didn’t have the time.

Now is the time!

I encourage you to think about yourself and to think about your kids who are still at home. They’re missing their sibling as well (lol, hopefully) and this is a great time to begin an activity together. It would be awesome if there is an activity that contributes to physical fitness and that you enjoy doing as a family. A daily swim. Walking the dogs in the park. Picking a new trail to explore. It would also be awesome to pick activities that stimulate the mind. Explore new areas of the city/county/state where you live. Learn about your heritage. Take cooking classes together. Take trips to local museums. Watch old movies.

Anytime there is a change in life there is also a shift in the ͞norm͟ and that’s okay. Life changes. Norms change.  The main thing is to not let it through you for a loop. Find the excitement in the adventure of creating the new norm for you and your family.

And rejoice! Rejoice that your child is grown. Rejoice in the children still at home.

Rejoice in yourself.... as a wife.... mom.... and woman!

~xoxo Loren

More Articles by Loren Slocum Lahav

Summer Smoothie Fun

People know that I am very into health and wellness. Anytime the topic comes up with other moms about a healthy diet for their family and making exercise part of their lifestyle, I get the same question,

How do you get . . .

Loren Slocum Lahav FAQ

What is your personal story and how did you get to where you are today?

Ever since I was a young girl, I always fought for the underdog. My belief has always been that everyone deserves a chance to find his/her place. . . .

Staying Drama Free in a Drama Filled World

It’s no secret that when our lives are filled with drama we struggle with pretty much everything. We tend to not manage time efficiently, our decision making skills suffer, and we begin to lack confidence and positivity. . . .

5 Ways to Inspire Others to Travel the Path of Their Dreams

We all have dreams. Some dreams are small and others large. When we reach one dream there is always another waiting in the wings to take its’ place. The thing about dreams is that we are usually a bit nervous to tell oth . . .

Thrive: The Definition Everyone Should Know 

To say that I am honored and humbled to be a part of “Chicken Soup for the Soul: Time to Thrive: 101 Inspiring Stories about Growth, Wisdom, and Dreams” is a huge understatement. To be associated with one of the world’s . . .

Multi-Faceted Women

As technology and work demands increase, we continue to explore more creative ways to make life easier. We are making it easier, yes, but does not necessarily mean more enjoyable and more fulfilling? Since 46% of the Ame . . .

Early Morning Wake Up Call

I was taking an early morning walk with my pup which is something I do regularly. Mornings are the best time to reflect, think about the day ahead, makes plans, and get in a bit of exercise in the process. Who knew that . . .

Positive Affirmations: Become the Change You Desire

I am a firm believer in positive affirmations and I find that many people are still not sure exactly what they are or how to use them in their daily life. I will be doing several blog posts on this topic over the next fe . . .

Are you growing old gracefully?

No matter what we do, the fact of life is that we are all getting older. Even those who eat the healthiest diets, hydrate daily, and exercise as a way of life, will all see signs of aging. We get the occasional gray hair . . .

Stay True

People are talking about


…and speaker Loren Slocum Lahav

“Loren is a dynamic woman and mother. She is such an amazing young woman accomplishing so much. Consistently achieving her goals, Loren’s guidance has . . .

The #1 Mistake That Will Make You Fail At Business

The word ͞fail͟ isn’t even in my vocabulary. That doesn’t mean that I succeed at everything I do but it does mean that I use every ͞non-success͟ as a learning opportunity therefore it’s not a fail.  But, when it comes to . . .

Life Tuneups

What is the Life Tuneups series?

In her new book, Life Tuneups: Your Personal Plan to find Balance, Discover Your Passion, and Step into Greatness, accomplished inspirational speaker and author Loren Slocum is committed . . .